What’s with all the guilt?

Last weekend I had a few friends over for a barbeque. They arrive, a couple handing over some food, then another walked in holding flowers. She had a guilty smile on her face and said, ‘I’m so sorry, I didn’t get you food. I got flowers instead.’

I was delighted. It’s not often I get flowers and it’s amazing how a little bright yellow lightens up my house. Nevertheless, all throughout the day she kept apologising and promising to bring food next time, obviously feeling bad for bringing flowers.

This got me thinking, after they had left, why on earth would she apologise? Why on earth would anyone apologise if they do something slightly out of the norm? I was happy to get flowers, and it’s nice to see them on my coffee table every morning.


So, what’s with all the guilt? Everyone needs to stop worrying so much that they have done something wrong, and start thinking that maybe what they’ve done is a pleasant surprise, helped out or made a difference.

I had my unnecessary guilty sensations last week, when I emailed a fellow blogger when he was going through some troubles. I thought the whole time that I was intruding on his life, that I was making things worse and my sudden appearance in his emails would weird him out. It didn’t (I hope), but it wasn’t until my friend brought flowers that I got over that slight guilty feeling. I realised that it wasn’t a necessary feeling. I had gone about things a different way, and it may have helped. If it didn’t, well I tried.

Plus the flowers look really nice. No one can feel guilty in their presence.

2 thoughts on “What’s with all the guilt?

  1. Honestly, I’m sure the fellow blogger appreciated the talk tremendously. You never know what impact you can have on a person, whether it’s simply flowers, or just a ear to talk to when things aren’t looking up at the time being. You should never feel guilty when you have something on your mind or want to get something off your chest.

    I actually have encountered this a few times but I was the one with the flowers. I think it’s one of those feelings, where you don’t want the host to be angry that you were the only one that didn’t bring anything. Honestly, I know some people who actually talk behind that person’s back to other people with little snickers here and there. I guess it’s just one of those feelings where you don’t want any one to not like you but that is not always true. There will always be at least one person out there that will disagree with you, and you just have to brush it off and live life.

    Is it weird that in the reader section, I search for you blog posts first? lol 😉


    • Yeh, I suppose it may be a little bit of worry that they’re going to talk behind your back, but it’s not going to change their opinion of you in the long term. Not weird at all! I’m flattered 🙂


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